100 Questions to Ask Each Other Before Marriage (or After, too!)Editorial manager's Note: This article is a piece of a mid year arrangement we are delivering on "Marriage and Families - A Multifaceted Landscape." We will cover Prophetic instances of relationships, mixed families, inquiries to pose under the watchful eye of marriage, romance customs in current occasions, the post-separate from scene, single child rearing and different points from a Muslim-driven viewpoint. Look into the blog all through the mid year to peruse our arrangement..
Along these lines, you need to get hitched! Or on the other hand, possibly you're beginning to consider it. Maybe there is somebody you've met or have been acquainted with, and you're thinking about whether you two are really perfect and have the stuff to go all the way and develop/keep up affection between you. Have you had conversations with potential mates? What things did you talk about? (Look at a dense adaptation of Melanie and Ahmed's story beneath!)
While it's difficult to have a deep understanding of a potential companion or to foresee how one may change throughout the years, recognizing what to ask each other can be very useful in making sense of if that individual is directly for you. We distributed a post before with a progression of inquiries for couples to pose to one another preceding marriage, yet we need to guide your focus toward this rundown of 100 inquiries also. Why? Since they were created by Imam Mohamed Majid and Salma Elkadi Abugideiri in their 2014 book, Before You Tie the Knot: A Guide for Couples, explicitly remembering Muslims.
Imam Majid is the imam at the ADAMs (All Dulles Area Muslims) Center in Northern Virginia, while Abugideiri is an authorized psychological well-being proficient.
Plunk down with a potential mate and pose these inquiries of one another! Or on the other hand, in case you're trying to remarry or even are as of now wedded and need a sound registration with each one another, give these inquiries a shot! We supplicate it will support you, insha'Allah
Imam Magid and Salma Abugideiri's 100 Questions for Marriage:
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1. What is your idea of marriage?
2. Have you at any point been hitched previously?
3. Is it true that you are hitched now?
4. What are your desires for marriage?
5. What are your objectives throughout everyday life? Long haul and transient plans.
6. Recognize three things that you need to achieve sooner rather than later.
7. Recognize three things that you need to achieve, long haul.
8. Why have you picked me as your potential mate?
9. What is the job of religion in your life – presently?
10. Is it true that you are an otherworldly individual?
11. What is your comprehension of an Islamic marriage?
12. What are you expecting of your companion, strictly?
13. What is your connection among yourself and the Muslim people group in your general vicinity?
14. Is it accurate to say that you are chipping in any Islamic exercises?
15. What would you be able to offer your mate, profoundly?
16. What is the job of a spouse?
17. What is the job of a spouse?
18. Would you like to rehearse polygamy?
19. What is your relationship with your family?
20. What do you anticipate that your relationship should resemble with the group of your mate?
21. What do you anticipate the connection between your life partner and your family to resemble?
22. Is there anybody in your family that lives with you now?
23. Is it accurate to say that you are wanting to have anybody in your family live with you later on?
24. On the off chance that in any way, shape or form my relationship with your family goes bad, what ought to be finished?
25. Who are your companions? Recognize at any rate three.
26. How could you become acquainted with them?
27. For what reason would they say they are your companions?
28. What do you like most about them?
29. What will your relationship with them resemble after marriage?
30. Do you have companions from the other gender?
31. What is the degree of your relationship with them – presently?
32. What will be the degree of your relationship with them after marriage?
33. What sort of relationship do you need your companion to have with your companions?
34. What are the things that you do in your spare time?
35. Do you like to have visitors in your home for diversion?
36. What are you anticipating from your life partner when your companions gone to the house?
37. What is your assessment of communicating in different dialects in the home that I don't get it? With companions? With family?
38. Do you travel?
39. How would you spend your excursions?
40. How would you figure your life partner ought to spend excursions?
41. Do you read?
42. What do you read?
43. After marriage, do you imagine that you are one to communicate sentimental emotions verbally?
44. After marriage, do you imagine that you need to communicate warmth out in the open?
45. How would you express your reverence for somebody that you know – presently?
46. How would you express your emotions to somebody who has helped out for you?
47. Do you like to compose your emotions?
48. On the off chance that you wrong somebody, how would you apologize?
49. In the event that somebody has wronged you, how would you need them to apologize to you?
Muslim wedded couple50. What amount of time goes before you decide to pardon somebody?
51. How would you settle on significant and less significant choices throughout your life?
52. Do you utilize foul language at home? Out in the open? With your family?
53. Do your companions utilize foul language?
54. Does your family utilize foul language?
55. How would you express outrage?
56. How would you anticipate that your life partner should communicate outrage?
57. What do you do when you are furious?
58. When do you think it is suitable to start intercession in a marriage?
59. When there is a contest in your marriage, strict or not, by what method should the contention be settled?
60. Characterize mental, verbal, passionate, and physical maltreatment.
61. What might you do in the event that you felt that you had been mishandled?
62. Who might you call for help on the off chance that you were being mishandled?
63. Do you experience the ill effects of any incessant illness or condition?
64. Is it accurate to say that you will take a physical test by a doctor, before marriage?
65. What is your comprehension of legitimate wellbeing and nourishment?
66. How would you bolster your own wellbeing and sustenance?
67. What is your meaning of riches?
68. How would you go through your cash?
69. How would you set aside your cash?
70. How would you imagine that your utilization of cash will change after marriage?
71. Do you have any obligations now? Assuming this is the case, how are you gaining ground to take out the obligation?
72. Do you use charge cards?
73. Do you bolster taking credits to purchase a home?
74. What are you anticipating from your mate monetarily?
75. What is your budgetary obligation in a marriage?
76. Do you bolster the possibility of a working spouse?
77. Provided that this is true, how would you figure a double salary family ought to oversee reserves?
78. Do you right now utilize a financial limit to deal with your funds?
79. Who are the individuals to whom you are monetarily capable?
80. Do you bolster using sitters and servants?
81. Would you like to have kids? If not, why?
82. To the best of your comprehension, would you say you are ready to have kids?
83. Would you like to have kids in the initial two years of marriage? In the event that not, at that point when?
84. Do you have confidence in premature birth in you family?
85. Do you have kids now?
86. What is your relationship with your youngsters, presently?
87. What is your relationship with their parent, presently?
88. What relationship do you anticipate that your companion should have with your youngsters and their parent?
89. What is the best technique for bringing up youngsters?
90. What is the best technique for teaching kids?
91. How were you raised?
92. How were you trained?
93. Do you have confidence in punishing youngsters? Under what conditions?
94. Do you trust in government funded schools for your kids?
95. Do you trust in Islamic schools for your youngsters?
96. Do you trust in self-teaching your youngsters? Provided that this is true, by whom?
97. What kind of relationship should your kids have with non-Muslim colleagues and companions?
98. OK send your kids to visit their more distant family on the off chance that they lived in another state or nation?
99. What kind of relationship do you need your kids to have with the entirety of their grandparents?
100. On the off chance that there are individuals from my family that are not Muslim, that are of an alternate culture or race, what kind of relationship would you like to have with them?