By Danah Shuli
Its an obvious fact that being noticeably Muslim lately has been a continuous battle for a large number of us. For ladies who decide to cover, the hijab is our conspicuous trademark. Every single one of us has an alternate relationship with it. A few of us have been wearing it for whatever length of time that we can recall that, others may have as of late put it on, while some might be experiencing periods of taking it off. Regardless, it is sheltered to state that wearing hijab, presently like never before, is a major duty and accompanies a weighty obligation.
As we head into 2020 and mirror this month on wearing "it like you mean it," I'm talking with somebody who is precious to me. She has supported for gladly wearing hijab since we were youthful. Lamia Ashour isn't just perhaps the dearest companion, however she has likewise advanced into the design world as an autonomous design specialist in the Bible Belt of the South, at the same time shaking her hijab in style! Most strangely, Lamia's customer base is to a great extent non-Muslim, and she has discovered that they esteem dressing humbly as much as she does, which has made her work simpler as well as significantly more important. She utilizes this shared view to overcome any barrier among herself and customers of different beliefs.
Lamia has consistently had an eye for style, and you will consistently detect her in the group with her larger than usual bow neckline, high heels and a fantastic sack. One thing that is constantly consistent is her hijab. She adores styling it and is never reluctant to attempt intense prints or shimmery textures. Hijab has been woven into her character, and I was unable to consider anybody all the more fitting to plunk down and have this discussion with. It is anything but a simple decision to remain noticeably Muslim; and as we head into 2020, this is the reason Lamia is deciding to do as such.
Style advisor Lamia Ashour
You've been wearing hijab for whatever length of time that I can recall, since the time we were youthful! When did you initially choose to wear the hijab? What started your choice? How was your first experience wearing it in broad daylight?
I began wearing hijab in the third grade, I was just seven years of age in government funded school. My sister, who is seven years more established than me, had put it on first. Along these lines, I believe that had something to do with why I chose to give it a shot. I advised my mother that I needed to attempt it one day. She asked me "Are you certain?"
I resembled, "Yes mother I need to attempt." I was so certain about my choice. I went to class with it, and I kept it on.
Alhamdullilah, it was alright, it was anything but a hard involvement with the start. By then there was no shame yet; this was pre-9/11. I just recollect it being somewhat hard after 9/11 occurred. [Once] a child pulled it off once and others called me names. Yet, I had a stunning head and educators who got him suspended. My school here in North Carolina, was so acceptable with me being Muslim, they were all so strong.
Despite the fact that there weren't that numerous Muslims in my school, I didn't feel confined. After grade school I went to an Islamic school so it was a lot simpler, obviously. Having a decent emotionally supportive network at home and at school unquestionably made it simpler for me to keep it on.
Your feeling of style has constantly made you extraordinary and stand apart from the group. How does wearing the hijab and being obviously Muslim in the South have an effect on your work as a business visionary?
A major piece of why I'm so into design is really in light of the fact that I wear hijab. I need to tell individuals, and let youthful Muslim young ladies know, that you can in any case be in vogue and wear hijab. Experiencing childhood in the Bible Belt and wearing hijab at a youthful age, I saw wearing hijab [pegged to] wearing an all-dark abaya. [There was a] explicit picture with respect to what hijab implied. I think this was additionally vigorously affected by our uniform in Islamic school. I needed to show that I can even now have a character, look astonishing and be unassuming all while wearing hijab and speaking to Islam in a manner that is legitimate.
I needed hijab to be a portrayal of myself without giving up anything. It hasn't been hard in light of the fact that Alhamdullilah, I have a solid and sure character. I think this has likewise accompanied wearing it from such a youthful age. I've set up this is the sort of person I am, and there's nothing amiss with that. I trust in individuals having their own personality. We live in a universe of similarity, and I advise my customers that it's alright to appear as something else. It's alright, to be extraordinary and think outside about the container, and one approach to communicate that is through garments.
Working in the [South] has been fascinating in light of the fact that you get two sorts of individuals; the individuals who don't get you, [and those] who do see however don't have indistinguishable strict qualities or convictions from [you]. A large portion of my customers are not Muslim and are unequivocally grounded in their Christian confidence. It works in support of me, since they handle that feeling of humility that I need to keep when I dress them and search for pieces for their closet.
Lamia Aroush and Danah Shuli
Inform me concerning your excursion in the design business and your job as a style specialist.
I began working in the clinical field for around seven years, and acknowledged I was troubled and constantly overdressed for work. I was likewise wiped out constantly, had awful headaches [due to my work] and was focused and discontent with my activity. I plunked down and contemplated what I needed to do throughout everyday life. I was perusing a magazine, or perhaps I was watching an honor show [one of the two], and I saw the words "styled by." And, I understood – that is the thing that I needed to do.
In this way, I got into retail. I was the visual supervisor at our neighborhood Kate Spade and was leader of their customer base. I additionally worked at a nearby JCrew as their men's merchandiser and right hand administrator. After that I chose to stretch out all alone as an independent closet beautician.
How has wearing the hijab for a long time formed who you are today? What drives you to wear it so firmly and gladly in when clinging to our way of life as Muslims, not to mention an obvious image, is so testing?
I was unable to picture my existence without it. It is such a piece of who I am, and I relate to it so much that being without it would be, as prosaism as it sounds, such as being without an arm. Alhamdulillah, I feel honored to feel that way since I know many individuals battle with wearing the hijab or don't have that feeling about it that I do. Like I referenced previously, I imagine that putting it on so youthful made it simpler for me to even now [wear it] today, since we do live in a general public [and time] that makes it somewhat troublesome.
I genuinely comprehend why I wear it and have conviction in that thinking, which is the reason I clutch it so beyond all doubt, Alhamdullilah. I believe that is what is so significant: understanding the why. I realize that I need to wear it, and knowing the history behind it and strict thinking gives me affirmation and solace. My hijab causes me to feel solid and partner.
Lamia styles one of her customers.
We are all on various excursions with our confidence and the manner in which we decide to rehearse Islam. What exhortation do you have for Muslim ladies and little youngsters, who are battling with their relationship with hijab?
To be completely forthright, I may not really be the opportune individual to offer guidance, since hijab hasn't been my battle. Saying this doesn't imply that I have not had different battles with regards to rehearsing my confidence. Be that as it may, in the event that I needed to offer guidance this is the thing that it would be – couldn't care less such a great amount about what others think. That is truly what got me through everything these years. I quit thinking about what others thought of me and simply did and wore what made me [And Allah (S)] cheerful.
When you consider why you're battling with hijab, what are the reasons? Consider the upsides and downsides of keeping it on. Do the geniuses exceed the cons? As I would like to think, one of the professionals ought to be wearing it for Allah (S). That by itself for me, in any case, is the driving variable concerning why I have it on. Since by the day's end, this is a demonstration of love, and we are doing it for Allah (S). Simply think about your prize for the entirety of the battles and hardships we experience just by wearing hijab!
[Also], converse with somebody about [your struggles]. There are many individuals who are battling with hijab, particularly as of late, so you are not the only one. It's alright to have this discussion. You can get counsel from other people who might be feeling a similar way or have experienced similar battles and have had the option to beat them.
As I would see it, hijab is something that speaks to who we are as Muslim ladies and ought to be a wellspring of pride – it's not something to be embarrassed or frightened of. On the off chance that you get yourself not feeling along these lines towards it, at that point I genuinely accept that you should burrow further and inquire as to why? Take as much time as necessary, converse with others and reflect. Wearing hijab is an otherworldly excursion. Despite where we are on that venture, we should hold our head up high and be glad for what our identity is and a big motivator for we as Muslims.