Figuring Out Halloween as a Muslim - One Mother Shares Her ThoughtsThe leaves are evolving shading, the air is overall quite fresh; apple picking, pumpkin patches and all the fall things are in full impact. This is my preferred season, yet I can't grasp the superb fall season without additionally recognizing the Halloween that joins it. Regardless of whether Muslims participate in or observe Halloween has been an interesting issue in the course of recent years. Or on the other hand, perhaps I have quite recently been giving more consideration to it since having children of my own.
Along these lines, we should discuss it.
I need to begin by saying that on the off chance that you are searching for a yes or no answer or an obvious choice before the finish of this post, isn't my goal. You won't locate that here. I myself am clashed about the theme, and this post is just a space where I will freshen up my musings on Halloween as an American Muslim raising a family. Positively there are Muslim families who grasp Halloween for the great that it is, and there are the individuals who don't participate in it. I don't expect to pass judgment on either side.
I grew up going to Islamic School and was brought up in a really moderate network. Going stunt or treating didn't generally pull in me by and by, and I never got a handle on left of the celebrations when I would see my neighbors going around. It simply wasn't critical to my family or the network I was in. We were instructed that this convention isn't a piece of Islam or our way of life as Muslims, because of it's agnostic sources. I have unmistakable recollections of my father killing the entirety of the lights, and my sisters and I would look through the blinds to watch the children wearing their ensembles go from entryway to entryway while avoiding our own with a confounded look on their appearances, as it was the main dull house in the area on that night.
My significant other, then again, had a somewhat unique childhood and along these lines has unexpected perspectives in comparison to mine with regards to this subject. Despite the fact that he didn't observe Halloween growing up, he went to government funded school and was not as vigorously drenched in our moderate Muslim people group as I might have been. Quick forward to today, with two children and our very own group, we are uncertain on the most proficient method to move toward this occasion.
This turns out to be much all the more testing when we have relatives who partake in Halloween. I am as yet uncomfortable with partaking. Possibly this is a result of the occasion's agnostic sources or that I don't prefer to simply follow the group. Possibly it's all the commercialization or the entirety of the sweets that I don't need my children to devour (truly, I'm THAT mother). My significant other contends that the occasion has occupied so distant from its foundations and is currently about gathering treats, taking on the appearance of your preferred character and going through a great night with loved ones.
While I do concur with his point of view, we have concluded that for the present while both of our youngsters are excessively youthful to truly see Halloween, we won't partake. This is vigorously affected by the way that we are both not prepared to confront the judgment we would get from our folks – indeed, that is the truth of our circumstance in this incipient period of parenthood!
Each opportunity October comes around in any case, my better half advises me that it won't be any longer until our girl, who is turning three this month, will begin seeing that she isn't going out in an outfit and stunt or treating, and that we should settle on a choice with authentic motivations to back up that choice. All the more critically, we should think of reasons that persuade us in either bearing.
It appears that this gap in assessment is especially the standard in numerous American Muslim family units and networks. Subsequent to getting some input on a study I led on my open Instagram account, motherofpearl91, I understood that many are in a similar vessel as my significant other and I. Most of my crowd didn't grow up observing Halloween and don't permit their children to go stunt or treating, in spite of the fact that they do accept that the occasion has moved away from its agnostic roots and is currently a great action to do with friends and family. Truly, I'm passing by the individuals who reacted to my Instagram study. Without a doubt there are numerous different assessments and practices around the subject of Halloween.
With regards to questionable issues in Islam, or "hazy areas," most of Muslims will in general allude to the hadith that states:
The Prophet (saw) says when you are far fetched, "What is legal is clear, and that which is unlawful is additionally very clear. Between these two is what is equivocal, which a great many people don't have the foggiest idea. One who stays away from the dicey shields his confidence and his respect." (Riyadh-us-Salaheen, Hadith 588)
I found that a large portion of my supporters felt that it is smarter to be sheltered than sorry and avoid partaking in Halloween. A significant number of them alluded to not having any desire to follow the group and impersonate those of various religions dependent on the accompanying hadith, "Whoever mimics a people is one of them." Narrated by Abu Dawood (4031); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
The issue of character disarray likewise came up in the reactions. Numerous guardians said their youngsters periodically would get back home posing inquiries with respect to Halloween subsequent to taking an interest in Halloween exercises at school or finding out about it, however not at home. A few guardians brought up the issue of for what reason do we as American Muslims or Muslim Americans not partake in American customs a similar way we participate in Muslim conventions? Still different guardians focused on that they need to draw an unmistakable line between their kids' ways of life as Muslims and Americans, and that this character ought not be undermined for consideration or mixing in with American or Western culture.
Numerous individuals additionally referenced that their nearby masjid holds a family fun night on Halloween to urge the network to get together in a sensational, Islamic condition as opposed to taking part in a non-Islamic occasion.
While these mutual sentiments were the lion's share, I got many reactions from guardians who see no mischief in partaking in Halloween and have a similar position as my significant other. Many contended that in light of the idea of Halloween today, let kids be kids and simply go have some good times! I thought that it was fascinating that some utilization Halloween as an approach to take part in their local network and follow the sunnah of "being kind to your neighbors." They contend that is an approach to show that Muslims are not outcasts, live customary lives and can get included and take an interest in school and network occasions.
A few people utilize this occasion as an approach to spread dawah through activities and graciousness by giving out treats to guests regardless of whether they themselves may not be stunt or treating. In spite of the fact that the idea is engaging, I for one figure it is confounding to youngsters who might be helping pass out sweets yet are not permitted to go around and gather it with their companions. I feel like the thought would work best if the youngsters are old, developed and grounded enough to comprehend the reasons why they don't celebrate yet at the same time might want to participate in the sunnah of being kind to neighbors.
I truly think there is no set in stone answer with regards to this point. Each relational peculiarity is extraordinary, and similarly as with numerous subjects in Islam, Muslims practice religion on a range and in various manners. We as a whole are attempting our best to make the right decision for ourselves and our families, so on the off chance that you run over somebody who may not have indistinguishable perspectives from you do on disputable subjects, be benevolent.
We won't concur on everything, particularly with regards to religion, however that doesn't mean a few of us are better Muslims or practice all the more effectively. Do your exploration, settle on an educated choice and leave the rest to God, Allah (S) knows best.